This Cant Be Ignored Away It Needs To Stop

According to the Washington Post webpage, in October 2010, a survey said that about 17% students were bullied in the United States. 16 percent said (girls and boys) said they were bullied for about a year. Although 23 percent said they were bullied for several years. Bullying nowadays, there maybe better awareness hence the bully laws trying to pass, but not many states or areas of the states don’t think a bully law is necessary, since it’s a thing that happens when kids grow up and go through. These issues don’t happen only from elementary school, middle school, and sometimes all the way in high school, kids in kindergarten have their moments when they feel like they rather stay home. It can happen at work, a university, a four-year college, or even a two-year college. Plus a good percentage of people who are bullied have autism, or another diagnosis that makes handling bullies harder for them.
Half the time people don’t know someone is badly affected by being bullied until something happen to the victim who is bullied. It can go from someone refusing to go to school or work. They sadly resort to suicide or worse they might pull off a gun shooting at the job or at the school. Sometimes they get escorted off of school campus or out of work building in an ambulance to a hospital, because they don’t really want to speak at the moment to anyone, unless given space to relax, and they are led to be aggressive since they didn’t get the space they needed with school security and to a cop. That was what happened to me on Thursday, November 29, 2012, and I have Asperger’s Syndrome a branch that is on Autism Spectrum.
I addressed getting ignored by classmates in early October, the head of the art department, since my art professor had no office hours. I said that I would try to join in a topic of interest (like New York Comic Con), but nobody cared about what I was saying. they just paid attention to each other, and pretended I wasn’t speaking to them on purpose it seemed. It looked like it to me and to my only friend in my class but she said she had to quit college, due to pressure and anxiety reasons, I being the understanding friend, understood her situation, but after she left I had no friends at all in the class. I just excluded myself from the rest of the class and sat by myself in the back, after I realized no one was interested in what I had to say. Even though I spoke about it, they just addressed that I needed to just focus on my work and not bother with them. And down the line they would include me possibly, I was to just do my class work. They didn’t say they should bring this up to my professor, they just told me don’t bother with trying to make friends and do your work in the class.
I did have one other friend but she wasn’t in my class, but also sometimes she’d leave early b/c she did have a gym class and wanted to practice (bowling) so we sometime would part ways and I would hang out by myself. But on that Thursday in one of the cafeterias she had practice but also she wasn’t feeling well, so she had to leave. A girl rude enough took my chair and told me that she could take it and said she obviously didn’t see a bag or anyone’s stuff there so she just took it without even realizing it. When I mentioned to her basically that someone was using that chair, she looked at me and said “I didn’t see anyone in it” and typical very rude manner. I told her that there was belongings right there and claimed that she saw nothing on the table by it at all. Her friends and her laughed at me and basically told me that was loser and to go away, and they don’t need to talk to me. As middle school as it was it still bothered me, but what sadly hit me the most was that no one seemed to step in and say something like “hey that was immature of you to say” or just pull me away and to not bother with them, they either didn’t notice, ignored and continued to eat they food, just watch the thing happen, or they didn’t think it was a bully related issue and just a girl being stupid about her taken chair… after that I left the lunch room and went to class and did my best.
I texted my mom what happened she was happy that I’m still was trying to hang in there and go to class. But since I had no friends what so ever, my tears were not stopping, and I felt alone in the school. I thought going to the bathroom and crying in there for a bit would help and then I would come out of the bathroom and go back to the classroom. I was in the bathroom for about 20 minutes so from around 12pm to about 12:20 I was in the bathroom sniffling in a stall. Girls did ask me what was wrong because they heard me sniffling crying in one of the stalls. I tried to speak but my voice was closed up so barely any sound came out, and I didn’t have pad and paper on me to say or write out “I was bullied in the lunch room and I’m ignored in my class and I have barely any friends here that are available.” But since I couldn’t say anything the girls eventually stopped asking and left about 3-4 minutes after they left, I slowly came out of the stall and was alone in the bathroom. I washed my face to try to get my tear plastered face fixed up and left the bathroom and back to class, I asked my professor about the work and she was going to sum it up for me but then she asked if I knew where my friend in the classroom was, she hadn’t heard about that she had to quit and quietly said she had to leave the college, and then my professor noticed I started to cry again… and when she took me out to ask me what was up and I explained to her that I was ignored in class and today I had a bully in the cafeteria… and as I was trying to explain it and she was sorry to hear that this was happening to me.
As I was talking to her two campus male security guards saw us and said to my professor that they wanted to speak with me. They figured out it was me since they saw my face was still plastered in tears a bit from earlier, when my professor asked what was up, and they said they got a report about a girl crying in the bathroom and was being a disturbance. My professor said that she can handle this situation on her own, and the security gaurds said that I had to talk to them now. Since I refused to speak with them ad wanted to be left alone of go home for the day, they left with leaving a female security guard to watch me, which confused me at the time and then I realized and said I wasn’t gonna harm anyone, but they said that it’s protocol though. So I was being hovered over by security and my professor was trying to keep me calm and such and was slowly claming down as she distracted my mind a bit and explained the assignment. The security told me I had to either talk to them or the social worker. I said I’d rather be left alone and then I might be able to talk later, they said that wasn’t an option. The head of the department was there, and I said if you won’t leave me alone and let me talk to my therepist. I’m gonna leave the campus right now to go home, and as I was gathering my things to leave a cop then stood in the door way, and I was already agitated with security enough to the point to threaten a cop if he didn’t leave the door way and let me pass to go catch the next bus to take me home, I would hurt him.
Normally I wouldn’t say that to cop at all, but when I’m pushed very close to edge, meaning not giving me space to cool off and then I can try talking about what happened my head doesn’t think straight and I’ll say things I don’t mean to say… so the cop and detective considered me aggressive and violent and refused to leave me alone and take me to a hospital… I was handcuffed and strapped down and driven off the campus. With about a third of the campus watching the whole thing students and staff and the head of the art department as well.
In the ambulance the detective ignored the fact that I had asperger’s because he didn’t seem to have a clue what that is or much about autism at all and just told the hospital I was a bi polar diseased and I glared at him because bi polar isn’t a disease it’s a diagnosis (and yes I have bi polar… but moods in bi polar don’t escalate the go on/off and whatever). He said I can’t talk much because of my situation right now, and refused to unhandcuff me till we in hospital. The hospital staff were worried but when the spoke to me, to their surprise I was just shaken up and all but not violent at all. My mom mentioned to the hospital that I had asperger’s and that helped a bit more after about 7 hours of being there and then they said the security escalated the manner to large and they should have just let me be and I might’ve been able to talk to them. But because they didn’t leave me alone when I was calmer in my class, they made a tiny bully problem to what seemed a “crazed violent lunatic” issue.
Even though the security and police and staff were trying to do their jobs with very little struggle, they really should’ve left me alone when I said I will be able to talk about it later when I was much more calmer about what happened.
Bullying most victims like myself who have had a long history of bullying, don’t always get it addressed. And with lack of friends at the college after several attempts there of making friends in class and more on the campus that failed, made it worse on me.

There many types of bullying that people don’t always know about:

>Name Calling (loser, skank, retard etc.)
>Being rude and laughing at someone (whether it’s only one person or a group)
>Being Ignored/Excluded/Rejected (due to someone trying to join a conversation that they like)
>Violent/Aggressive (pushed into a/at lockers, or locked in somewhere and you can’t get out, etc)
>Being Rumored about (very untrue rumors that tend to spread enough that you have barely any friends)
> Sexual Orientation/Preference (someone who is made fun of for being lesbian, bi, gay, trans, asexual, pan, etc.)
>Harrassment (sexual, etc.)
>Racial/Religion Comments (being offensive to someone who’s Jewish, African American, asian, middle eastern, native American, Hispanic, etc.)
>Cyber bullying (harsh, rude, unkind, comments, posts, on youtube, facebook, tumblr, twitter, etc. that are hurtful and sometimes can say to the person to go kill themself)
>Body type/image (too fat, too broad, too skinny, etc.)
>The way someone sees things in the world differently, interests, their personality type, etc. (comics, being imaginative/creative, etc.)
>Insults in general or directed about their family and friends or their past and/or present

Girls’ and guys’ way of bullying are alike but different at the same time. Male bullies tend to be more violent and aggressive mainly. While female bullies mainly use their words to bully other. What can make someone into a bully? Here are a few reasons why possibly:
>They were bullied in the past
>They are jealous/envious of someone or of a lot of people for an unknown reason
>They don’t like their home situation
>The way they were raised in their family
>They have their own self-esteem issues

Half the time the bully victims get into or more into trouble than the actual bully or bullies. Since they are left there and are accused being a disturbance in the area. The out come People who are bullied are various.

>Become a bully themselves
>Have very low self-esteem of themselves
>Resort to suicide/attempt suicide
>Get emotionally unstable
>Have trust problems with anyone
>Possibly can cause a shoot out
>Refuse to go to school or work again/quit their job
>Demand to be home schooled instead or do work at home instead/quit their job
>Can sometimes get involved with crowds that aren’t the greatest idea to hang out
>Tries to find a new school or a new job and sometimes even move away if that end up being the case

Or on the brighter side of it

>Can’t bully anyone at all
>Tries to stand up to people for others being bullied around
>Is able to talk about that they a bully victim and want to do all they can to help stop bullying from escalating.

Anyone of the listed can happen to someone who has a history (long or short) of being bullied. What matters is once it’s happening you can just ignore it; it can possibly get worse and keep going on. You need to do what will help to put an end to it (at the least temporarily). There a bunch of things you can do for yourself as a bully victim or as a by stander. For one obvious one don’t answer back to the bully try to ignore them or really react to them, just first try to ignore them. But if it’s getting worse here’s other options as a bully victim or as a watching by stander can try next.

>Leave the area or lead the bullied person out of the area and just ignore them till someone of superior authority sees what’s up or until they just give up
>If it persists you or the by stander should get someone of superior authority to address the issue

I for one may have had a long history of being bullied, but I try to stop it from happening so it doesn’t get worse for me or someone else. This issue can’t just be ignored any longer, it has to be stopped.